How to Get Into Fitness when You’re 40

March 9, 2010 by JohnF  
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Time is passing by a lot faster than you imagined when you were twenty-five. However, you may stay in shape and look good if you have a healthy diet and an active lifestyle.

Steps

  1. Aerobics should become a routine for you.
  2. Work out while listening to your favorite music, or ask a friend to join you.
  3. When you work out, try not to push yourself too much and protect yourself from eventual injuries.
  4. Riding the bike is the perfect exercise for women predisposed to osteoarthritis to the knees.
  5. Jog while you take the dog for a walk, it will be great to feel your muscles working and you heart full of life.


Tips

  • Strengthening exercises, stretching exercises, and a healthy diet are a great formula for your health by enhancing metabolism and keeping your weight under control. This way, you may also combat depression, insomnia, or fatigue.
  • If you do light aerobics you won`t risk to hurt your bones, get too tired, you`ll improve your flexibility, and breath easier.
  • Try to walk more, it`s easy, safe, and a cheap way to get rid of the stress and burn calories.
  • Swimming can do miracles for women over forty by strengthening their muscular mass, tendons, and ligaments. You may start with swimming sessions of up to twenty minutes, and then relax with a massage.
  • Always ask for medical advice before you start a fitness program and let him know about any problem that may show up.

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How to Dress With Style and Vavoom After Forty (Women)

March 9, 2010 by JohnF  
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Women over forty still need to express their sexiness and style but without looking like a teenager or a street walker. The secret is in clean elegant lines, high end fabrics that drape well and fit are the key points to remember when choosing your outfit. Let’s look more closely at those points:

Steps

  1. Choose clothes with clean, elegant lines. In a fashion world of layers and “more, more, more,” clean lines slim the body, remove the overkill of too much volume and confusion and help the observer focus on the person, not the clothing. Look for lines that flatter your figure. Be adventurous and try on that wrap dress or long straight skirt with the fringe end. But keep the rest of the outfit in balance and opt for clean lines, less volume and simple cuts, like straight skirts or A line skirts. Look for details that enhance the quality of the clothing but don’t add bulk.
  2. Skip the cheap polyester. Women over forty need to wear the better quality fabrics. Choose silk, wool, cotton and high end blends of elegant fabrics that will drape over the body better. A better fabric adds to the life of the garment as well as the reflection on the wearer. Let the teenagers buy the cheap stuff since their styles and tastes change every month. You, a sophisticated woman, prefer a classic or updated classic in a soft or crisp fabric that holds up under seasons just like you do! Experience comes with age. So does an appreciation for silk. Better fabrics add to your worth and sexiness.
  3. Get the right fit. Wearing clothes too tight screams that you’ve gained weight or you’re trying to look like a streetwalker or teenager who is showing off assets. Women over forty are mysterious. And smart. Buy clothes that fit well but are not skin tight. Most women over forty need a hem line just below the knee but above the calf or just above the knee. Got great legs? Opt for a hem line two inches above the knee (the shorter look is younger looking) or add boots with a longer skirt that has a slit in a strategic place. If you have any weight in your upper torso, avoid patterns and horizontal stripes in your sweaters and blouses. If you prefer wearing black, always a classic, try for a touch of color to lighten your look. Red is powerful and requires confidence. Women over forty should have the confidence to wear red. Find the best shade for you: reds are either orange based (tomato red) or blue based (cardinal red).
  4. Wear good jewelry. Make a list of jewelry that you would like to own and start acquiring those pieces. Start with classic but larger size pearls in your best shade (depending on your skin tone. Less is more with jewelry so stay with a few key pieces and avoid the overkill of jangle and dangle.

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How to Know if a Guy Likes You

February 21, 2010 by JohnF  
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There’s no way to know for sure if a guy likes you, unless you ask him (and even then he could get shy and say no!); here are some tips to help you determine if he likes you.

Steps

  1. Examine his body language. If he likes you, you may see that he rarely turns his back to you, often leans towards you, and also looks at you a lot. If he slouches his shoulders when near you, he’s romantic and cares about what you have to say. If he points his shoulders and pelvis towards you while sitting, he is definitely feeling something for you.
  2. Notice his eye contact. If he likes you, he may either look away quickly if he is shy, or he’ll try to catch your eye and hold it or make faces. This can be uncomfortable if you don’t like him. If you feel like you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if he looks away quickly, then there is something there. When he’s around you and he says/does something funny and everyone around laughs, his eyes will flicker towards you for a second to see if you laughed, too.
    • His pupils may dilate if he likes you, but this is quite hard to pick up on, and you might come across as acting strangely by looking that closely into his eyes. If you’re around him for a long time, it could be easier to pick up on gradually.
  3. Listen to what he’s saying. If he likes you, and he’s nervous, he’ll probably start talking about himself. Many times, guys feel the need to prove themselves- especially if you talk about another guy in his company.
  4. Be aware of touching. He might put his hand on your arm when he laughs, and won’t move his leg if it happens to touch yours, or he may hug you for small things – all are good signs of a guy liking you, unless he’s a bit of a “playboy” who flirts with a lot of girls. See if he uses any of the tricks in How to Touch a Girl, and see if he uses them more with you than with anyone else.
  5. Watch his actions around other girls and see if he treats you differently. Some guys flirt with other girls to get your attention. It gives them a chance to see your reaction, and helps them know if you really do like them or not. You can tell that they are trying to make you jealous if they find little times when they’re flirting with the other girl to look at you. His eyes will flick over and look at you. Another sign is that when you leave, he stops flirting with the other girl. That will be a harder one to pick up on, but you can have a friend look for you or something like that. You have to be sneaky sometimes to find out if a guy likes you.
  6. Watch for him showing interest in things you like and do. For example, if you like a certain genre of music that he likes as well, he may suggest bands or artists for you to listen to. Another example, if you play sports he may ask to play against you just to show off that he’s good at something you both like and then also have a reason to give you compliments as well.
  7. Check for signs of nervousness Nervous laughter, sweaty palms, deep breaths, fidgeting, looking away quickly when you notice if he is watching you are all good signs of an attraction towards you and that he is nervous about making an impression on someone he fancies.
  8. Pay attention to his friends. If they know he’s interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you’re around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him. Study their reactions to your presence – do they smile? Do they turn to him? Do they smirk in a way that suggests they know something that you don’t?
  9. Don’t ignore him If he shows genuine interest in you, (i.e. smiles at you a lot in the hallway, work, etc., at least go out for a walk.)
  10. Look to see if he imitates you If he mimics you, he probably likes you, such as, if you move to another table, he’ll go with you.(I’ve had a guy who liked me mimic me before, so I know this is one thing)
  11. Teasing If a guy teases you a lot, it might mean he likes you, but if he doesn’t tease any other girl, he probably does like you.
  12. Hitting A guy may hit you but it’s just flirting he probably just wants to see your smile i have had a few guys that will hit me that like me. You may find it annoying if you’re not into him, but otherwise if you hit back then that’s a way then he can know that you like him back!
  13. Compliments . If you do your hair or makeup differently one day, and the guy notices, that’s a very good sign that he likes you. Most guys won’t notice, and if they do, they won’t say anything unless they’re into you. Anything like, “You look nice today,” “I like that shirt,” or even “Did you do your hair differently today? It looks nice,” are all indicators that he could be interested in you. NOTE: If he’s a good friend of yours, these won’t necessarily be indicators of romantic interest. It could just be him being a good friend.


Tips

  • If you like him and you are confident, ask him out.
  • The Clock Test: To see if a guy has been checking you out, abruptly look at the clock, then look at him really fast. If he followed your eyes to the clock, he was staring at you and was startled by your sudden movement that following your eyes is a reflex to them.
  • If he seems comfortable talking to you about other girls, he probably does not like you in that way. Either that, or he is trying to make you jealous, which might mean that he likes you but doesn’t reflect too well on his character. Or he could be trying to see if you like him.
  • If his ex hates you, there might be a reason.
  • If you have a different lunch schedule than him, try “visiting” your friends in that period and pass by him so he knows you are there. If he comes by to sit with you, or “surprises” you by sneaking up on you, talk with him. Then, later, ask your friends if he normally comes over to sit. If he doesn’t, he most likely likes you and wanted an excuse to be near you.
  • The Pencil Test: If you have a lead pencil, “accidentally” break it. If you ask him to sharpen it for you, and he says “Yes”, he could be into you. If he says “No”, no hard feelings, he could be shy.
  • Here’s a way to ask him if he likes you without really asking! You can tell a friend to go up to him, look him up and down, and say, ‘You and (insert your name) should go out.’ If he looks at your friend like he’s thinking or nods at her/him, he may be considering the offer. But if he shrugs, or just turns away, don’t think he doesn’t like you. He may not be comfortable telling your friend if he likes you or not.


Warnings

  • If you look at him a lot, he might look at you just to see if you’re looking at him and not because he likes you.
  • Remember that if you like someone you can sometimes misread their signals in the hope that they like you back. For instance, a guy who teases you in an affectionate way may act like that towards everybody and doesn’t realise that he’s making you swoon every time he pokes good-natured fun at you!
  • Watch out for the subtle guys. If he asks you something that could potentially be a date but you’re not really sure, make sure it’s clear before you agree to it. It can be uncomfortable when one of you thinks you’re on a date and one of you thinks you’re not.
  • The wrong kind of guy might say he likes you without meaning it; if this is the case, he probably wants to see how far you would go with him, for any of those activities (whatever they may be) themselves and for bragging rights among his friends.
  • Don’t ask your friends to ask him if he likes you. He might not be truthful and tell your friends that he doesn’t like you. It doesn’t work 99.999% of the time.
  • He doesn’t look in your eyes when talking to you. If he focuses more on your body, be careful, he may not like you for you. He could just be looking for a “good” time.

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The 3 Pitfalls You Must Avoid – 40 Plus and Dating

February 14, 2010 by JohnF  
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For the over forty and fifty plus singles, the advent of online dating has been yielded terrific benefits. When you are single and in your forties and fifties, it is often challenging to start out on the dating circuit again. Often after many years in a relationship, the meeting and chatting skills are somewhat rusty. So the dating website offers the chance to break the ice with new people before you actually meet them. There are, however, 3 common pitfalls that need to be avoided if the online dating experience is to go smoothly.

The first, and biggest common pitfall that the over forties and fifties singles make is being vague in their requirements. These dating websites typically have hundreds of thousands of members, if not millions, and so vagueness can result in you being inundated with emails and enquiries. In some cases people have received over a hundred responses with 48 hours of joining the web site. This can become a major logistical nightmare for you. The way to avoid this is to indicate very clearly the type of individual you are looking for. Most good quality websites provide you with very comprehensive profile areas both for yourself and for the person you are looking for. Spend a reasonable amount of time on this section of the website and ensure that you are clear on your needs, wants and aspirations. Spending time now will save you having to spend hours later reading through emails from unsuitable suitors.

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Common Mistakes When Dating After 40

February 14, 2010 by JohnF  
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When you’re single and looking at 40 plus dating, it seems like time is so short. You can’t waste time running after anyone or anything when trying to find a date. Suddenly, you understand the value of time and effort. You may have been previously married, or are still single, but 40 plus dating means you’ll need to do a more realistic search for someone who you can get along with the rest of your life. And, since people are living longer, and/or waiting longer to get married the first time, there are many people in the 40 plus dating category.

If you are dedicated to finding your soulmate, begin with an earnest look at exactly what you want in Mr. or Ms. Right, and then do what it takes to find him or her. You have a lot of choices to consider when it comes to dating, so base your search on finding the best way to meet that special person. In the perfect world, you would recognize your soulmate at the first meeting, and continue dating from there. That doesn’t happen often in real life, though.

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When a guy suddenly stops calling

February 14, 2010 by JohnF  
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What does it mean when a guy suddenly stops calling

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40 Plus Dating – Online Dating Etiquette FAQ

February 13, 2010 by JohnF  
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When you are 40 plus, dating online can be a completely different social world than you have been used to in the past. Online dating etiquette is a bit different than when you meet in person, so it’s important to learn what is socially acceptable in the online dating world.

Q: Is it OK to correspond with more than one person at the same time?
A: Yes. If you are not actually officially dating anyone yet, this is the way you will get to know them. By corresponding with many different people, you will be able to choose which one seems like the best match for you.

Q: How long should I wait before responding to someone?
A: The internet world moves fast, so it’s a good idea to try to respond within 24 hours if possible. Remember that you are competing with thousands of other profiles, so the other person will just move on if they don’t hear back from you.

Q: If I don’t think someone is right for me should I still respond back to them?
A: Not necessarily. 40 plus dating online etiquette is different than we have been taught in that it is polite to reply to all correspondence. In the cyber world, it is acceptable to not reply to every email, especially if you feel the sender is not compatible with you.

Q: How much information should I reveal in my emails?
A: Your first few emails should be short and upbeat and not reveal too much personal information. You are just sending out feelers at this point. Long, drawn out emails telling your complete life history are a turn off and may not even be read. Remember that unlike in person, they can dismiss you without a thought with that ever-looming delete button.

Q: At what point should pictures be exchanged?
A: Some people will ask for pictures right up front and that is perfectly OK. We are visual creatures and it is natural to want to know what people look like. It is not acceptable to send nude photos and also keep in mind that when 40 plus dating if you send photos of yourself in your 30’s that you will have to deal with the consequences eventually.

Q: If I start dating someone, should I take my profile down right away?
A: If you are serious about starting a relationship with that person, then yes. If you are just starting to casually see people, such as coffee dates, then you don’t have to take your profile down yet. Most online dating websites allow you to suspend your profile so that it can’t be viewed publicly, but don’t delete it entirely. If things don’t work out, you can always turn your profile back on.

40 plus dating
can be challenging enough without worrying about online dating
etiquette. Though good manners are always a good idea, the rules for
online dating can differ somewhat from the real world. Don’t miss out
on your chance to find the right person. Go to http://www.40-plus-dating.com

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Over 40 dating

February 13, 2010 by JohnF  
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Forty plus and dating was not developed really as a dating site, but more to help people over 40 who find themselves alone and want to find someone new.

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February 13, 2010 by JohnF  
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What is it like for you to be 40 plus and dating again.

Has it been easy?

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Perfect Dating Techniques For Men Over 40 Guaranteed To Land You A Woman

February 9, 2010 by JohnF  
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Perfect Dating Techniques For Men Over 40 Guaranteed To Land You A Woman   by Jo Gardner

You may find yourself newly single and over 40 for a number of reasons and these may be that you have recently got divorced or broken up from a long time partner. Whatever the reasons it is a daunting task to launch yourself in to the dating world and more and more men are desperately seeking dating techniques for men over 40 that really work.

There’s very little point in dwelling on what might have been. You need to look to the future and to re-building your life and your goal is to turn yourself into the type of man that women want to be seen with, and the following few tips will help in this quest.

Women will be attracted to you if you are putting out the right signals. You definitely don’t want to come across as a needy man. The most important of dating techniques for over 40s men is to appear confident and self assured and this is where you have the upper hand over younger men. You have more knowledge of life than younger guys. You have spent quite a few years liaising with all types of people throughout your workplace and you have the skills that only a more mature man has. So don’t let age get the better of you, work at making it a definite advantage.

Never ever bore a woman by talking at great depth about your past relationship which went wrong or by talking a lot about your hobbies or interests. Women couldn’t care less if you are divorced but they don’t want to get the impression that you hold a torch for your ex or that she could make trouble.. Talking about football and beer might be all right with your mates, but to be honest most women have little interest in either subject.

Don’t talk too much but don’t completely clam up either. Let her speak and be an enthusiastic and attentive listener. Women love to talk and if she feels she can easily chat to you like she would a girlfriend then you stand a good chance of her becoming interested in you.

Dating techniques are pretty much the same for over 40s as for younger men — the answer still lies in making yourself attractive to women. Younger women may be drawn to you and this has to be a plus. Other peoples opinions don’t matter but make sure you don’t talk down to the girl and don’t make a fool of yourself by trying to dress and act like a 20 year old. It may be that you have little in common with younger women but it will certainly boost your ego to be seen with a good looking young woman and at the end of the day, you can easily move on to more mature women.

There are plenty of fish in the sea and if you don’t land one particular woman, then throw your line back in! Just relax and enjoy mastering the dating techniques for over 40s that are outlined above, and pretty soon you’ll have women queuing up to go out with you.

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